Essays & Journalism
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Grieving the Future I Imagined for My Daughter
THE ATLANTIC
I am learning that grief can be complicated and ambiguous—that we hold ideas and expectations of ourselves and loved ones so tightly that we have difficulty seeing them from any distance, and that it’s even harder to let them go. (Illustration by Maria Nguyen) -
The Work of Caring for My Daughter Will Never Be ‘Efficient’
THE ATLANTIC
The more prizes you get, the better (and better off) you are is a sensible and comforting ode for those with the prizes. And that model of individualism may have worked for my parents, and even for me — until I had Izzy, whose existence falls outside the widespread social tendency to reduce human worth to productivity and economic output. (Illustration by Sophia Deng) -
New York’s Subway Is Still Not Safe, but Not for the Reason You Think
THE NEW YORK TIMES
Nearly three-quarters of the city’s 472 stations don’t have elevators, leaving millions of New Yorkers — including the elderly, disabled and caregivers with young children — with no choice but to avoid the subway altogether. This issue affects far more New Yorkers than does violent crime, but it is treated much less urgently. (Illustration by An Chen) -
The iPad was meant to revolutionize accessibility. What happened?
MIT TECHNOLOGY REVIEW
It may be naïve to expect AAC technology to spring from the same conditions that support billions of people selling makeup and posting selfies. Maybe there needs to be a separate arena for developing technology products aimed at small populations of people who could truly benefit from them. (Illustration by Nico Ortega) -
My Relationship With My Daughter Is Full of Love and Loss
CUP OF JO
The truth is, since Izzy was diagnosed two years ago with a genetic syndrome causing severe intellectual and physical disabilities, I’ve been sad—so sad that, at times, I gasped for air—while mourning the loss of the daughter I thought I would have. (Illustration by Abbey Lossing) -
Was That Racism?
THE CUT/NEW YORK MAGAZINE
It seemed the public was being begged to entertain any motive for the killer—sex addiction, the grip of evangelism, he was simply having a bad day—except for racism. On Twitter, Asian and Asian American voices streamed in with a counter-narrative: Stop gaslighting us. This is racism. -
The Mothers Who Already Left
THE CUT/NEW YORK MAGAZINE
Every parent in America remembers the moment last spring when they had to figure out completely new relationships to caretaking and work. But for me, and many women like me, that moment came well before the pandemic. (Illustration by Simone Nironha) -
Special Ed Shouldn't Be Separate
THE ATLANTIC
The prospect of Izzy being hidden away from other kids seemed unappealing to me—and unjust. As desperate as I was for Izzy to attend school, I didn’t want that to mean removing her at an early age from the rest of society.